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Why Do Most Women Choose Sex Toys Over Men?

Estelle J. Garrido

Why do most women these days choose sex toys over men? Both men and women frequently ask these questions. One of the reasons is to obtain easier and simpler orgasms. If a woman has trouble having orgasms, a vibrator is the most effective tool available since it eliminates the danger of unintended pregnancy and other related problems.

About half of American women have used a vibrator or dildo at some point in their lives, with 20% using one within the preceding month, according to research published in the journal PLOS ONE in 2017[1].

You can also safely presume that they are quite popular among lesbians. Women who have had sex with other women are more likely to use sex toys (86% vs. 53%), and those who have used a sex toy with a female partner report higher levels of sexual satisfaction than those who have used them alone or never.

Researchers have also discovered that sex toy users are more proactive about their sexual health and have better sexual functioning overall (i.e., more desire, more lubrication, and more frequent orgasms) [2].

Despite the many positive outcomes associated with women’s sex toy use, some men feel threatened by them: “I can’t compete with a vibrator,” an anonymous male said to the Good Men Project in 2015 [3]. This concern is understandable, given that most women do not have an orgasmic climax during vaginal intercourse and do so much more frequently while using a sex toy.

Some sex therapists claim male clients frequently express concern about being supplanted by vibrators and dildos. However, this story has been told before, back when vibrators were first promoted to the general public as “marriage aids.”

Some men find it difficult to deliver pleasure to women, so most are thrilled when women act out a false orgasm. Many men find it emasculating to admit that they want or need a device in their sexual pay, even if it’s a girlfriend’s vibrator, which could stimulate them.

This is especially the case among young men, who want to be seen as masculine, sexually self-assured, and able to satisfy a woman.

Masturbation is not inherently taboo because everybody masturbates, but many men remain quiet due to the stigma around sex in this culture.

In reality, a penis can only stimulate the woman on the inside, but a vibrator can stimulate all 8,000 of your nerve endings at once, causing you to become very wet and engorged with blood and tense your muscles there.

You should reassure your pals that the new plaything is merely an extra, not a menace. The penis and the intimacy of a romantic relationship are irreplaceable.

Thankfully, studies show that sex toys can improve marriages and couples’ sex lives. Thus, the stigma surrounding them is gradually disappearing.

There’s no comparison; sex toys are fantastic for masturbation and may also be used to spice things up with your spouse. One study from 2010 found that lesbian, bisexual, and straight women all use sex toys with their partners and reported higher levels of sexual satisfaction when their partners were aware of and approved of their sex toy use [4].

The following year, researchers discovered that most males had positive views on women using vibrators, with 70% opposing or strongly disagreeing with the assumption that sex devices are threatening to women’s partners [5].

The Reasons Choose Sex Toys Over Men

There are many reasons for women choosing sex toys over men. Some of them are discussed below:

• It’s far less difficult for women to experience an orgasm using sex toys.

The sex toys women use with their partners are fantastic. Vibrators, cock rings, handcuffs, and feathers are numerous enjoyable alternatives.

They aren’t a staple in women’s sex life, but when they use them, it’s a lot of fun. Many women try it out with their current partner for the first time early in their relationship.

Toys are quickly being used during sexual encounters as a result. Having an orgasm with vibrators is a breeze. Even while stroking women’s clit, they have trouble getting there consistently (no matter how amazing the sex is).

Another plus is that they make it easier for their partner to initiate sex. Even with completely devoted partners, it often takes an unusually long time to make women cum (often an hour or more).

They can be tricky to work into intercourse depending on the posture and the object. When it comes to clit pieces, many women choose cock rings with vibrations.

They’re hassle-free since you don’t have to hold them, and they effectively do the job. Furthermore, the vibration is not permanent; it is felt on the clit and disappears.

Amazing climaxes of orgasm are the outcome of these sex toys. Partners should have open and trusting conversations as a couple before they use sex toys.

Using sex requires trust and communication between partners, which is difficult to achieve. Often partners also both had to deal with the shame of sexual experimentation brought on by having been raised in a Western/Eastern culture where such behavior is frowned upon.

For this reason, it is crucial to pay attention to your partner’s needs and concerns and do what you can to make them feel at ease. When compared to a real companion, sex toys have distinct advantages.

Using sex toys as part of a sexual routine can be incredibly rewarding. This is a major reason for improving many women’s sex life together.

Soon after people wed, they can begin exploring the world of sex toys. Since it’s heard that it’s common for couples’ sex lives to grow stale after marriage, especially for those in long-distance relationships, partners should both be open to the notion of trying out new sex toys.

Many toys that women use for experimentation (like the Lelo Sona) offer a level of stimulation that can only be attained with the addition of sex toys.

For obvious reasons, a human partner is limited in ways that sex devices aren’t. For the avoidance of doubt, the Sona is a sonic vibrator that emits sound pulses that are directed at the clitoris.

• Women have the option to repeatedly orgasm.

The rate at which women orgasm can be entirely under their command while using a sex toy. And they don’t need to wait for a “guy” to refuel to do it repeatedly.

• Women don’t need to wait for a guy with a dildo in the collection.

Although a vibrator isn’t many women’s first choice every time, it is nice when they are in a hurry and need an immediate climax. Many women love having sex, but there’s a lot of prep work required when you have a partner, and many women might not always be in the mood for foreplay.

• You don’t need to communicate with them.

Sex toys don’t talk; they can continue to make you cum without stopping. And “you can get rid of them right away.”

Is It Normal?

Many women have trouble reaching climax because their clitoris is not stimulated during sexual activity. Many people resort to private masturbation if their partner does not provide adequate compensation (either physically or verbally) and are too timid about expressing their desires or seeking additional stimulation during sexual activity.

Why Are There More Sex Toys For Women Than For Men?

When comparing the various penetration methods, women have more access points than men. That being the case, they’ve made a plaything to fill all of their voids and then some.

In functionality, vibrators on male sex toys are vastly superior to masturbators on female sex toys. Since women enjoy being stimulated, clitoral and g-spot vibrators made from silicone with slim shafts and flared tips are preferable to other stimulation gadgets.

Masturbators for guys are designed with different shapes, colors, and sensations for those who enjoy them during play. Butt plugs, nipple clamps, bondage accessories, or dildos are universal, which means both men and women can use them.

With a little creativity, you can start to notice what I mean. Most designs are created with a woman in mind, minus the penis erection rings and masturbation, since women are the sole sex that markets the toys better.

Seeing a pair of nipple clamps on a man’s chest in an advertisement sends too many mixed signals. Using a sexy well-endowed woman helps sell the items at a smoother rate.

I understand many toys are color-coded, like the vibrators we see today. Since colors help boost our moods, the colors of the vibrators are usually vibrant colors that soothe them visually before they even start sexual play.

If we remove the vibrator category, most toys will start to look similar. And who likes that? Each to their own, they say, and sex toys are no different in that aspect.

Most sex gadgets sold nowadays are geared toward a sexual experience between a couple. The enjoyment is doubled, and so is a good time!

If you enjoy lengthy foreplay sessions but find that your spouse isn’t as into them as you are, a sex toy can be a great way to improve and lengthen them without any of the usual letdowns.

If you’re not into bandaging yourself, BDSM sex gadgets and accessories are a great way to indulge your other sexual fantasies.

No one in this game is perfect for partners who enjoy testing their limits through resistance and starvation. One last thing, many sex toys may appear to be the same, but each has its unique features that you need to investigate to appreciate fully.

Several vibrators have hundreds of unique vibrating patterns, thrusting motions, and gyrating activities that others lack. These are some of the reasons there are more sex toys than men.

References:

• https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0181198
• https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7678782
• https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/00926230903375677?journalCode=usmt20
• https://www.researchgate.net/publication/51683677_Beliefs_About_Women%27s_Vibrator_Use_Results_From_a_Nationally_Representative_Probability_Survey_in_the_United_States
• https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/news/20041007/sex-toys-more-common-in-women-in-relationships